Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Making Women Lust For You

Talk to just about any man, and the odds are pretty good that he'll tell he wouldn't mind being the kind of man that women lust after. We all want to think that we're physically attractive to the opposite sex. However, there are a lot of different reasons that a woman lusts over a man, so there's no one way that any guy can make any woman lust for him. If your goal is to have women lust after you, there are certain things that you can do to make yourself attractive to the broadest range of women possible.

First on the agenda is your appearance.

Sure, many physical attributes are subjective and it's true that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder," but there are certain elements that you can incorporate into your appearance that will increase the odds that women are going to be drawn to you. Most women like their men to be clean and looking sharp. If you show up for your date with a nice five o'clock shadow and your clothes looking like you've run the Boston Marathon in them, the odds are pretty good that your date isn't going to swoon over you. On the flip side, if you show up having just given yourself a good shave and in clean clothes, you're probably on the way to making a pretty good impression. Something else to remember is that most women love a dazzling smile and for their men to have a decent haircut – even though hair length and style are both pretty subjective. Something else that you might work on is getting your eyes to twinkle, making it much more likely for you to get off to a great start.

After your appearance, we get into the gray area of personality traits – some of which women love and some of which women dislike. If you ask what personality trait women most like in a man, the odds are pretty good that "a sense of humor" is going to be near the top of the list. This doesn't mean that you have to find Homer Simpson to be the epitome of comedy or that you need to have watched SOUTH PARK, but rather that you don't take yourself or life too seriously. When you're out on that date, if you can make a woman laugh, you're well on the road to having her seriously want you.

When you're out with her, make sure that you listen to her. No woman likes a man who monopolizes the conversation. Also, don't turn into Mike Macho when it comes time to picking up the check. If she says that she wants to split it, don't make it into a battle. Go along with her and watch as she enjoys the way that you're respecting her wishes.

Women like men who are self-confident, but that doesn't mean that they enjoy arrogant men. They don't. They want someone who knows who he is without being a jerk about it. This also holds true when it comes to being someone who doesn't have a 6-pack abdomen. Most women find men who are attentive to their needs and are confident, relaxed, and sincere, are the men that they most want to spend time with.

In short, with probably just a little work, you can turn yourself into the man that woman are lusting over.

Kathy Stafford, Relationship Coach, "I show singles how to get
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Monday, October 29, 2007

Why Engineering In The Future Will bring More Disasters.

Cheaper, faster and better.

That is what engineer's are hearing from their management. Management is of course made up of MBA's and accountant's, who have no idea what it takes to engineer a safe, reliable product. All their interested in raising their stock price. At the cost of civilian safety. Don't believe me? Just keep your eyes open on the number of product failures that arise these days. If its not a design fault, its usually manufacturing where its easiest to cut cost.

Come on, after all, who will know whether you've added in 2 or 3 cups of water to your cement mix. Will you? You wont. But your house/building/bridge will pay the price down the road, usually taking lives with it. Who do you blame? The engineer or the constructor?

CAD, CAE and CAM companies are all chanting the mantra, "Faster, Cheaper and Better". Their all rushing to create products that work like a black box. The vendors all say that you don't have to know what goes inside the black box, all you have to do is to come up with your CAD model, apply your loads and constraints, then believe the results! Yeah, right, like that was what we were taught in school.

But the irony is that management is buying all this bull shit. In their blind haste to bring products to the market faster so that profits go up, their stock price rises, and they get a huge Christmas bonus every year, management is taking risks and closing an eye to the complains and constraints raised by their engineering team.

Speaking from a point of view of an ex-CAE vendor (technical manager), I have seen engineers design products without knowing why they chose one particular type of element over the other. They don't know why their using a 8-noded quadratic element over a 4-noded element and they've been using the software for some time now. Okay, most of them as not as ignorant as this person but I can assure you that majority of they don't know when to use the Arc Length method in a non-linear analysis or do they have a rough idea on how the Netwon Raphson method works in a nonlinear analysis?

The worst is during results interpretation. Everyone feels good when the stress plot shows more blue than red (in FEA, red color indicates regions of high stress while blue color indicates region of low stress). Some of these engineers dont even think whether their results are plausible. They just note the highest stress value, put it into their report and sends them across. The senior engineer verifying their work looks over the loads and constraints and the corresponding results and OKAY's them. This report then goes through the channels to other vendors who based their design on this report. The young engineer who just did this report doesnt know the cascading effect his report might cause if any of the numbers of wrong.

With the use of tools like CAE, engineers are not thinking anymore! We're so used to sitting in front of the computer and looking at this pretty stress plots that we dont spend them time to evaluate whether our results are reasonable. How many of us look at our stress results and think about the inputs that went in. Did we make any mistake when defining the loads - was force inserted in the positive x direction, as per the design specification. Did we make a mistake with gravity? In ANSYS, gravity, surprisingly, always acts in the positive direction of an axis, while in MSC.Software, Abaqus and other FE softwares, gravity is just a force and its direction depends on whether its acting upwards or downwards. When gravity is coupled with other forces, and is applied wrongly (or in the wrong direction), it lowers the maximum stress in the model - in other words, a wrongly applied gravity could make an otherwise failed design pass! This is what I meant by checking the inputs thoroughly!

When approached by CAE vendors especially, ask them how you can check and verify your work. ANSYS is stupid in the sense that there's not output listing of your loads. You just have to ensure that you have inserted them correctly in the GUI. Software's like LSDYNA (the best output I have seen), Abaqus and MSC.Software all list the inputs in a text file that you can verify that you've inserted your loads and constraints properly. Always ask for this. make sure you know what is going into the black box you're using so that you can be reasonable sure of the output.

You're an engineer. Be proud of the fact that the safety of someone elses life is in your hand. Even if your design didn't for the public consumer, think of the person installing your design. He might be doing it alone. What if a bracket breaks and injures him - he will have that injury for the rest of his life while you still sit comfortably in your chair going on designing other stuff, oblivious of what harm your design creates.

So, don't be pressured by the CAE vendor to purchase their so called easy to use software. The risks are just too great. And explain the consequences to your management on the perils of buying something that you cant verify the inputs and outputs. As an engineer, you must know all inputs and outputs. And the CAE software that you're using must be able to provide you with such information! Don't let it leave you blinded.

Friday, October 26, 2007

Wind Beneath My Wings

Bette Midler's Wind Beneath My Wings is an inspiration to all those who toil in the shadow so that the rest of us can have a good life. This goes out to the nurses out there, garbage and sewer personnel, engineers, clerks -- the simple people who go through life doing what their doing, without the high pay or the glamour that comes with the job but who, without then, all our lives will be a mess.

The next time you're at McDonald's and the cleaner comes and picks up your tray after you, thank her. For if she hadn't done that for the person before you and wiped your table clean, you wouldn't have had a place to sit and eat.

Don't take others for granted. Their as valuable as you are. You're not so special after all. You're replaceable. Everyone of us are. We're just kidding ourselves if we thought that our company, family or society will fail if we're not there. There may be a slight hiccup, yes, but life moves on, even for the grieving spouse.

Haven't talked to mum and dad for a while? Just pick up the phone and dial. They'll be glad to hear you, they always will. You will always be their pride and joy, no matter how old you are.

Acah and mummy, I love you from the bottom of my heart!

Monday, October 22, 2007

The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 cups of coffee..

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar...and the 2 cups of coffee...

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf  balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it  was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if  The jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things-your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff. If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no  Room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get  medical checkups. Take your  partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal."

Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand." One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always  room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Secrets of Making Money - Mother Nature's Rules.

Everyone's out to make money. And we all work our butt off every daily to make the extra dollar. And I dont know if you realize this or not but most of our efforts are against the tide. That is why we always end up tired and exhausted and no where closer to our goals.

Here's something short for you to read and absorb and hopefully your journey to success will be a little easier and happier; and you wont miss the wonderful life you have.

Secrets of Success

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Joke: British Royal Wedding Night

Camilla bought new shoes for her wedding, which got increasingly tighter around her feet as the day went on.

That night, when the festivities were finally over and they finally retired to their room, she flopped on the bed and said, "Charles darling, please remove my shoes, my feet are absolutely killing me!"

Her ever-obedient Prince of Wales worked on her right shoe with vigour, but it would not budge. "Harder!" yelled Camilla, "Harder!" Charles yelled back, "I'm trying, my darling! But it's just so blooming tight!"

"Come on, my prince! Give it all you've got!" she cried.

Finally, when the shoe released, Charles let out a loud groan and Camilla exclaimed, "Aaahh! Oh, God, that feels sooo good!"

In their bedroom next door, the Queen said to Prince Phillip, "See? I told you with a face like that, she would still be a virgin!"

Meanwhile, as Charles tried to remove her left shoe, he cried, "Oh, bloody hell, darling! This one's even tighter!"

To which Prince Phillip said to the Queen, "That's my boy: once a Navy man, always a Navy man!"

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

A good place to sit and ponder...

Originally uploaded by Jonas!!

How I wish I could go to a place like this! Can you imagine being on top of the cliff, right at the edge and just immersing yourself in the beauty of Mother Nature, the quietness of the wilderness, far away from the hustle and bustle of city life.

Unfortunately, I am a workaholic. I thrive in the city, with the crazy traffic and noise pollution. My mind has learned to shut out all the sound these days. I am becoming a zombie.

I have no complains actually, until I see pictures like this which remind me that there is more to life than work.

Thanks Jonas for sharing this picture and making me see the bigger picture of life.

Friday, October 12, 2007

How Speed Kills? 3 Exciting Videos...

3 videos that show how speed kills.

The first video shows how a difference of 5 miles per hour makes in an accident. One car is driven at 60 mph while the other is going at 65 mph. Watch and learn.

The second video shows the effect of driving while tired. You may now realize it but the consequences are magnified because your reaction is slow.

The final video shows how seat belt saves lives. It's funny that in Malaysia, people still think seat belts are optional.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Why We Should Go Home On Time

Mr. Narayana  Murthy is undoubtedly one of the most famous persons from Karnataka. He is  known not just for building the biggest IT Empire in India but also for  his simplicity. Almost every important dignitary visits InfoSys campus. He  delivered an interesting speech during an employee session with another IT  company in India. He is incidentally, one of the top 50 influential people of Asia  according to an Asiaweek publication and also the new IT Advisor to the  Thailand Prime Minister.

Extract of Mr.  Narayana Murthy's Speech during Mentor Session:

I know people  who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so  because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other  people I know have put in these hours for years. I do not know if they are  working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long.  Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the  workplace.

Whatever the  reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is  harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers  can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office long  hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential  errors.

My colleagues  who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by  fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time  and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to  correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem  is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company.  They often complain about other people (who are not working as hard); they  are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such  behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work  together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers,  there are things we can do to help people leave the office. First and  foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a  manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose  their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp  of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to  encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is  a guideline I find helpful:

1.        Wake up, eat a  good breakfast, and go to work.

2.        Work hard and  smart for eight or nine hours.

3.        Go  home.

4.        Read the  books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids,  etc.

5.        Eat well and  sleep well.

This is called  recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2. Working regular  hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of  us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all  have the power to choose to do them.

In considering  the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a  toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep  no matter how long the visit was, and no matter what time of day it was.  He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was  afraid that he would miss some thing. Once our visitors' left, he would go  to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream  through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the  price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some  people put in such long hours because they do not want to miss anything  when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will  never stop happening. That is life! Things happen 24 hours a day. Allowing  for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will  happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when  you wake.


Joke: Side Effects of Alcohol

1. Symptom: Cold and humid feet.
Cause: Glass is being held at incorrect angle.
Cure: Maneuver glass until open end is facing upward.

2. Symptom: Warm and humid feet.
Cause: You pissed your pants.
Cure: Dry yourself at nearest restroom.

3. Symptom: The wall facing you is full of lights.
Cause: You're lying on the floor.
Cure: Position your body at a 90-degree angle to the floor.

4. Symptom: The floor looks blurry.
Cause: You're looking through an empty glass.
Cure: Quickly refill with your favorite beverage.

5. Symptom: The floor is moving.
Cause: You're being dragged away.
Cure: At least ask where they're taking you.

6. Symptom: You see multiple reflections of your face.
Cause: You're trying to puke in the toilet.
Cure: Stick your finger in your mouth.

7. Symptom: You hear echoes every time someone speaks.
Cause: You have your glass on your ear.
Cure: Stop making a fool of yourself.

8. Symptom: The room is shaking a lot, everyone is dressed in white and the music is very repetitive.
Cause: You're in an ambulance.
Cure: Don't move. Let the professionals do their job.

9. Symptom: Your dad and all your brothers are looking at you funny.
Cause: You're in the wrong house.
Cure: Ask if they can point you to your house.

10. Symptom: A huge light is blinding you.
Cause: You woke up in someone's lawn.
Cure: Coffee and a long nap.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

How Niagara Falls Came To Be

A picture collage showing how Niagara Falls came to be...

Does anyone know the story behind these pictures....

Monday, October 08, 2007

Song Sharing Girl Prosecuted

I guess the authorities are really starting to stamp down on illegal file sharing through the Internet.

Jammie Thomas, 32, from Minnesota, to pay for offering to share 24 specific songs online - a cost of $9,250 per song. In total, she owes the recording industry USD222,000!

Read the full story here: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/technology/7029229.stm

Here's some commentary on the above story: http://www.news.com/8301-13578_3-9791764-38.html?part=rss&subj=news&tag=2547-1_3-0-20

Únknown Peru Amazon Tribe Seen

An unknown Peru Amazon tribe was seen by aerial photographs at the Brazilian border of the Amazon jungle. Amazon tribes have been known to stay away from outsiders for fear of disease and other sorts of outside influences.

Read the whole story here : http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/7027254.stm

Fighting for Fourth Place Again?

Oh my Liverpool, why do you break my heart?

I've been waiting 18 years for league title to come to Anfield and I thought this would be the year. It certainly started out well but alas, it seems that we will be fighting for fourth place again this year.

Why cant Liverpool play with the fluidity of Arsenal or Man United? These two teams play beautiful, flowing football. And the fact that Arsenal is doing very well since the departure of Henry does show the preference that was given to him during his time there. Some players tend to become Gods just because their exceptionally good. And the team suffers because of that.

When I see Liverpool play, I dont see the smooth flow of play that brings great confidence to their supporters. It's all kick and chase. Where's the flow Liverpool, where's the flow?

What can I say about Robbie Keane except that he's darn good and if only he was playing the for the Reds, Liverpool would be scorching hot.

My only consolation is that it took Drogba a year to settle in and I hope the same for Torres before he comes alive and scores on the average two goals every weekend.

Friday, October 05, 2007

Who Are the Skillful Ball Players in the English Premier League?

Don't you miss Dennis Bergkamp?

Even though I am a die-hard Liverpool fan, I admire the silky skills and vision of Bergkamp. He make football a joy to watch. The only two Liverpool player I know who came close was John Barnes and Steve
McManaman . Their wizardly skills helped propel Liverpool to the top of the league.

What about Glenn Hoddle? Chris Waddle? Paul Gascoigne? Mathew Le Tisser?

Who can forget Gianfranco Zola?

But are these players a dead breed? Are there any more skillfull, game changing, awe inspiring play makers in the English game anymore?

Thursday, October 04, 2007

It's a C Plus Plus World After All...

I've been programming ever since I met and fell in love with a UNIX box in 1995, on the 5th floor of the engineering department of the University of Manitoba.

I was in my first year engineering and everyone was hogging the PC's on the ground floor. So I made my way up to the 5th floor where I was warned not to go because those machine are big and ugly and they dont have disk drives, not to mention any local hard drives at all. Welcome to the wonderful world of UNIX. Met her (UNIX) and fell in love with her. Simple and elegant!

Thus began my adventure in programming.

I had always admired those who could design websites. I asked a friend and he said web designing was a piece of cake. So, I decided to try the cake. Those days, in 1995, web designing was not done on fancy software's like Dreamweaver or Frontpage but in Notepad on Windows 3.11 (at home) or Textpad on the Sun Solaris. Every student is given some disk space and that was where my first web page was hosted. I cant really remember the URL but it was something like http://people.umanitoba.ca/~umgomez0

Then I had to learn a programming language. At that time everyone was into Fortran but a forward looking mechanical engineering professor told me to learn C instead. That was the best advice I ever got. I did learn some Fortran eventually, just so that I could understand all the Fortran programs that were lying around. But I stuck with C (being the only one out of 60 students in my Thermofluids class to hand in my computer assignment in C while the rest of the class handed in an identical Fortran program) and eventually picked up C++, then followed Java when it was first released but I couldnt keep up with the changes in the languages (I followed Java until it was version 1.5.1 then I left).

I also learned Visual Basic 3, courtesy of a good friend and mentor, Larissa Singh. She was so good with VB, she could write a program with her eyes closed. She introduced me to GUI programming. I also dabbled in HTML and web designs.

I aced the Assembly Language class that I had to take in my third year of engineering. I finally knew what the darn computer was doing in the background with all those registers and 1's and 0's. It was fun. This led me to focus more on robotics as it was the only subject that involved some programming. Finite element was then just n elective. It was fun but not as computationally intensive as robotics.

As I started my working life, I didnt get to dabble with programming as much as I would love to. Although I was working for a software company, I was more into the engineering portion of it. All software development was done in the US. I did learn some APDL (Ansys parametric development language) and PCL (Patran Command Language) along the way to help me script my anlaysis but they were not full fledged languages. It was during these years that I stumbled onto Python, in my search for a simpler and yet elegant programming language.

I also stayed in touch with Visual Basic and learned Php to make my web sites more interactive. Thank God for Php. Perl is horrible. Php runs circles around Perl which is so clunky and cumbersome. Php is so easy to learn, elegant and powerful.

But despite all these languages, I am still comfortable programming in C or C++. I admit, it took me around 4 months of reading and re-reading the section on pointers before I finally understood what it was all about. It was an AHA experience to finally see the light behind it. I dont get many AHA experiences in life but this was one of them.

Last week, at the nudge of a colleague, I am back into C++. I downloaded the Bloodshed C/C++ compiler and Bruce Eckel's wonderful book, Thinking in C++ (free of the web), and I'm back in business. C++ allows me to put forth my ideas easily and elegantly. I now create ilttle programs that help me in my engineering work.

Unlike Python, I dont have to bring up IDLE and then bring up the Python program. With C++, once the program is written, all I have to do is double click it anytime to use it. I prefer it this way. Easier.

I guess after all this searching, I am finally back to C++.

C++ forever!

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

18th Floor Flooded?

How does the 18th floor of a building get flooded?

A burst water pipe would be the answer.

Location: Menara Tan & Tan.

It happened yesterday, Tuesday, January 2nd, 2007 at around 1.30 pm when the water tank on the 11th floor was filled to the brim and the back pressure rose up along the pipe until it broke on the 18th floor.

Here are some pictures. Slightly blurred. More pictures will be posted soon.

As you can see below, the water soaked the carpet, nearly destroyed several computers and caused havoc on documents and folders under the tables. Water level was about 2 inches high. Everyone had to resort to using brooms, baskets and even hard paper folders to scoop the water out.

The Canadian embassy beside us was also affected but their lucky, their floors are bare.

As I write this, the carpets all around me are soaked and will remain soaked for some time to come.

Clearer pictures will be posted when they arrive.

Here's the rest of the pictures...

Picture below shows the burst riser, which happened to be at my floor, and 7 floors above the water tank.

We had to scoop the water out of the office. There was too much water for it to evaporate naturally. The tinted windows didnt help either.

Why Is My Cross So Heavy?

All of us carry our crosses daily. And all of them are heavy. Why does God do this to us? Maybe this illustration will help...

Remember, all our crosses, not matter how large or small they may seem, is specifically made to help us through our lives. Dont compare your cross with someone else's. Your cross is special. It is made for you, for your future.